As a Spouse of Someone in Chronic Pain

Today I’m talking about my thoughts on living with a spouse who is in Chronic Pain. Let’s be honest, it’s not the brightest of topics, but I think I found three benefits …


  1. you two are amazing people. This video especially, and the blog post, gives me hope. I've been single with chronic illness for about 10 years now, and really needed to see that there are people out there willing to deal, and grow with someone like me. Thank you so, so much!

  2. Hey y’all, I started watching you videos a month or so ago and I feel compelled to reach out. You’re an amazing couple and dealing with a partner that has their own struggles has helped me with a partner external addictions and other internal and external problems. Love you guys! You are really helping me know that couples can move through some shit. Thank you!

  3. Ohmg you 2 are amazing! I sent this to my husband, fingers crossed he watches it. He is a very hard worker and doesn't understand why sometimes the house goes days without being cleaned. He doesn't have sick leave so when he gets a cold or flu he goes to work sick, and he's like "If i can go to work sick, you can get up and clean" I don't know how to explain to him, it isn't like being sick. It's like the worst part of the flu plus muscle burning and joint pain, not to mention the memory fog and forgetfulness. The thing I hear that hurts the most is, "you make my life more difficult." I understand, My life is more difficult for me too. I feel bad for him because he works all the time. I just don't know what to do.

  4. I'm 18. I was diagnosed with abdominal migraines. I hate people seeking me. It happens often, and the people around me are stressed. The way you look out for her is amazing. Stepping back and being calm is such a big thing with my condition. So I know she must appreciate your calmness and care. The good days are always amazing and its a reason to deal with the bad ones.

  5. I have chronic pain and I get quiet sick all the time. I've lived with this pain for as long as I remeber, my boyfriend has been my friend before so for ages. He gets my pain like that and helps take care of me every chance he gets it's great to see someone's other half understand like he dose!

  6. I love you guys! As a person with Lupus, I go through a lot of pain. Also, I do not share Martina’s diagnosis but I was born with very elastic joints and now, at age 57, I am paying the price for that in additional pain. All of that said, my beautiful husband if 8 years is my best friend and very supportive and understanding. Partners I had previously were not so gracious and loving. Simon, you are a blessing in Martina’s life, as she is a blessing in yours. And both of you are a blessing in the lives of all whom you touch. Thank you for your openness and for sharing so much of yourselves with us. We love you both. Peace. ☮️

  7. I suffer from depression and anxiety and neurological disorder(I think it’s just called cluster headaches in English) and I feel so so bad that my boyfriend has to deal with that. Which makes me more depressed and it’s all a bad circle

  8. Thank you for sharing this and giving me back the hope that I'll be able to experience a healthy, loving romantic relationship one day. 💗😻🐶 (r.i.p. spudgerz)

  9. My biggest fear about my chronic pain is that nobody is going to love me like this. I mean if I had a partner already then maybe they could keep loving me even if my condition became worse. But being like this.. it's very difficult to imagine anybody falling in love with the me in pain. Some days are just so bad and then weeks in a row are really bad and it never ends and it just feels impossible that anybody would want this as part of their lives. I am sure I don't..

  10. hey, simon. i just wanted to let you know how much this video means to me. i'm a long time subscriber but avoided watching this video for a long time because i know it would make me emotional. my partner was diagnosed last year with MS and has a lot of similar symptoms to martina. (extreme pain days, mobility issues, brain fog, etc.) it's been such a struggle for them but your videos have been a light in our life for a while now. i'm really happy i sat down and finally watched this — like you said, it's painful to watch the person you love suffer while you feel useless to help them. but you've definitely opened my eyes on how to look at our situation a little differently, and i can only hope to keep growing and changing so that i can be just as strong for him. thank you so much!
    -quinn (and charlie!)

  11. As someone who is diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, ptsd, cronic depression and social anxiety I felt like no one could ever love me, like I was a pain to others but then I met the most amazing guy ever and like you said in a previous video I felt like I tricked him into being with me and now he would feel bad for leaving me alone. He is very patient and the most beautiful soul I have ever met and after we watched some of your videos together (this one and what simon's tattoos mean and his side of the story) he said to me: yes it's challenging to be with a person like that but I love you and you gave my life purpose, I want to help you get through hard times so we can enjoy our time together, and all I'm thinking is thank you for showing me what I deserve and I have no idea how I can repay this person like ever and I shall be forever grateful for someone like this

  12. Thank you for posting this! My husband has rheumatoid arthritis and it is really hard for him to deal with being in constant pain. Like you I don't talk about my side of dealing very much because many people can't relate. Thank you for highlighting the positives instead of focusing on the negatives!

  13. Wow! You have my deepest respect and admiration for sharing your experience. You are helping tons of people out there in similar situation by reaching out to people using your platform. It's great to see a couple in a beautiful relationship in the current state of the world.

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